Angry Much? Part 2
One way of viewing anger is as a signpost. It could be telling us something. If only we could soothe ourselves down enough to ask anger what it is telling us. It might be saying that a boundary has been crossed. If we can take up the challenge to soothe ourselves down and explore which […]
Angry Much? Part 1
Anger is one maligned emotion. It achieves very poor status when held up against other, more acceptable emotions. In some families it is rejected outright and denied any ‘breathing space’ at all. There are so many spoken and un-spoken rules around anger in families. Things like: With such imperatives, we understand what not to do […]
Parents or not parents
Many people have asked themselves if it is even possible to make a decision, in the negative, about an important question like this. Comments like, ’Naturally, you’ll want to have children’, leave many in a frozen position – paralysed in a space that can be riddled with anxiety. So many of us forget that there […]
Partner or no partner?
The expectations in our society that, we will all eventually be in an emotionally committed relationship with another person is quite ingrained. Many of us will have unthinkingly started a sentence with, ‘One day when you grow up and get married…..’ when speaking to a child in our vicinity. The pressure of this seemingly harmless […]